His Answers On Women…
I LOVE to hear what men think about women and relationships and recently had a chance to ask Darren his thoughts on women and he didn’t hold back. You might want to sit down and buckle your seat belt for this….oh, and grab a margarita…lol
Below are the questions I asked him to answer…
1. What makes men fall in love and stay in love?
2. What is it about a woman that will keep a man hooked?
3. What are the inner qualities in a woman that spark attraction in men?
4. What should a woman do when a man seems withdrawn or losing interest?
5. What is the worst thing a woman can do to a man?
6. How should a woman respond if she wants a commitment from a man?
What He Said…
I don’t think there is anything a woman can do to make a man fall in love and stay in love. Although I have never been in love, I have come close. I can only say how I came close. I’m 44 and I was married for 16 years. I was married to a wonderful woman and I can’t say anything negative about her. She the perfect wife and to this day I trust her more than I would trust anyone. The problem is that I was young and I didn’t realize the seriousness of a committed relationship. That being said, although she was a great wife…she wasn’t for me because I wasn’t in love with her. Although I tried and she tried there was nothing that could be done to change that. I learned alot about myself during those years.
I could go on about how much of a drama queen women can be but I believe that is only relevant to an extent. If women were happy in their relationships they wouldn’t be drama queens.
When two people are happy I believe that it is automatic. People always say that it takes alot of effort to make a relationship work but I disagree with that. I believe that if a relationship is healthy and real, it doesn’t take any work at all because it is TRUE LOVE.
I would have never believed it but it ALMOST happened to me once. I was married from 1987-2003 and when I divorced I dated quite a bit and pretty much believed that I had no interest in getting married again. Throughout my life I have only obsereved 2 married couples that were truly committed to each other. Other than that most of them were really just tolerating each other.
Anyway my close experience started in 2005, I live in northern Cali and she lives in southern Cali. We met while she was visiting family close to where I live. To make a long story short we were so connected with each other it was like a spiritual event. Every minute that we were together it was like magic, and I’m not exaggerating. I didn’t have to try to enjoy being with her it just came natural. We flew back and forth at least twice a month and took several trips together from 2005- 2008. I was sooo connected to her I started writing poetry about it and that was definitely NOT the type of dude I was! The problem with me is I am very superficial. As much as we were connected, for superficial reasons I wouldn’t let us get to that next level. She was the type of woman I could be stranded on an island with by ourselves and would be content. She wasn’t unattractive but I just had a few visual hangups that I couldn’t get over so I just couldn’t commit myself to her. It sounds horrible but I’m just being honest. Anyway what made me a believer is that it wasn’t anything that she tried to do to make me feel that connection with her it was just because she was who she was. I believe that some people are just made for each other, and I believe that most people just do see it that way and they either settle and are miserable or they eventually break up. Until I experienced that relationship I didn’t really think I had the potential to be totally in to one woman. Until then and only then I believe people should just be honest with themselves and the people that they are involved with. Life is too short.
Answer to question 2. There is nothing that a woman can do to make a man love her and stay in love…nor anything can be done to hook a man. I don’t know if you are religious but I am not. Like is said I wasn’t quite in love but I believe I was close. I can only relate it to is like when Christians say how they felt when they were moved by Jesus Christ. It was just a content feeling that I felt as if her and I were in our own little world.
#3 Personally I love fun, confident women that knows when to handle business. I also like women that we could be in public sometimes and see something funny and just start CRACKING up. Alot of women are so uptight trying to be too serious all of the time. I don’t like arrogance but I like a woman with confidence enough to know that she is special and sexy. Unfortually at my age many women have alot of baggage and hangups. (Not all of them though, some of them realize that that they been there, done that and they are very comfortable with themselves). Anyway, thats my personal preference. I know some guys that like women who are needy because it makes them feel superior.
4. When a man is withdrawn it could be anything, work stress, financial issues and not necessarily related to the woman. If he’s willing to discuss it her thats a great sign because obviously he can confide in her. Losing interest is another story. Don’t read into it. If a man loses interest just let him go. We play alot of games with women just to keep them around so women just need to keep their dignity and leave. If he comes back be very wary before taking him back.
5. The worst thing a woman can do is bend over backwards to keep a man to keep him. We respect a woman that can just calmly walk away rather than getting emotional. As difficult as it may be……act like its cool and just get over him.
6. If women have to respond to want a commitment he is the WRONG GUY. The RIGHT GUY would do all of the work.
The bottom line is when a man loves a woman she will NOT have to guess because he will let it be known to the world.
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