Should I Give a Younger Man a Chance?
Move over Demi and Ashton….
Younger men are popping up everywhere, it's taking my world by storm!!
I've never considered dating a younger man before but there is a younger man who's been pursuing me for months so I thought I'd give it a try and went on a date with him. He's 26. For those of you who don't know, I'm 36. He's so freakin' drop dead gorgeous, he makes my hormones bubble with orgasmic bliss. I swear, he's better than a Brad Pitt look alike. I seriously go blank for about 1 millisecond when I hear his voice. The thing is…I don't know if I should give him a chance. What do you think??
I'm obviously intensely attracted to him, there seems to be a connection there, but it seems as if he has a lot going on in his life and I recently told him that I think it is best if we're just friends.
I said, “I'd like to offer you my friendship instead”
He said, “I would like to be more than friends with you…”
I've been seeing many guys lately, but to be honest with you, this guy just “gets” to me…in a way where I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Shit dammit…I hate that. I know you know the feeling because I've answered tons of emails from my readers with the same dilema.
I even tried going to the water…lol…wrapping his name with a piece of paper around a stone and told myself and the universe that I completely release him from my life. But he keeps showing up, he continues to gently pursue me and after thinking I was really done with having intense feelings of attraction for him, his recent email left me sitting down with a blank stare wondering about this whole attraction and why it's even there.
I also let him know that if he's just looking for sex, he's wasting his time. He said, "I want a strong mental connection" and wants me to go out with him again. He's asked me several times since our last date. He wanted go out with me last weekend, but I didn't go out with him that night. I went out with another man instead.
Because there is alot of attraction between this young dude and I, I need to keep alot of space between us. Don't want to get into something prematurely. It is good that it is slowly developing in order for time to reveal what is really there, in order for his intentions to become more clear, however, in the meantime, I asked him why he wants to be with an older woman. I drilled him on it. He said that he finds it harder to relate to women his age, that older women seem to have it “together” – they know what they want and he's not into drama. He said he's always been attracted to women who are older.
The first time I met him, after our date he wanted to kiss me. He said, “First date kiss?” So I reached over and kissed him on the cheek instead. If you're on a first date with a man, you should do the same. Even though I felt the electricity of the attraction that almost made me buckle in my freakin' knees, I had to practise self-government and , be in control of my emotions and manage the feelings of attraction that I share with him.
Ever so often when I think about him though, I feel an electric flash…
So I'm gonna give him a nick name..I'm gonna privately name him Mr. Electrical Flash…since he commands quite a voltage respond up and down my spine….and now I'm beginning to have serious fantasies about this dude.
When he calls his voice makes my beautiful heart skip a beat, but I act completely normal about this. I speak with him as though we're friends and he'll ask me questions about who I'm seeing or about my day. He wants to know details, but I don't need to reveal my secrets because some things are best left unsaid. So I tell him he's too nosey…and he laughs.
I'm gonna see how this all pans out…think I'm keeping this one in the background for now. I'm really not sure about this so I'm not going to make any quick decisions even if he's wanting something more and I'm having fun with the other men who are currently chasing me down. I swear it's the season for young guys too since they keep coming my way!!
So what do you think? I want your opinion…I know age is irrelevant…but I want to hear your thoughts. What do you think I should do? Should I give this guy a chance?
I need to get to know him more and I'm gonna have to take a lot of time to reflect over why the attraction with him feels so much more than a physical thing. I'm beginning to wonder what is his purpose in my life and what role he's to play on my journey.
Would love to hear your thoughts, leave your comment below. If anything develops beyond this, I'll definitely share more:)
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