21 TOP Mistakes Women Make With Men and How to Recover
Did you screw up BIG time and want to know how to recover from it? Before I figured out some key attraction secrets, I used to make HUGE mistakes over and over again with men that would make me look and feel bad, desperate, needy, and clingly. In fact, I was constantly being nominated DRAMA Queen of the Week!!
How about you? What are some unforgettable mistakes you've made with men or the man you're seeing now that you really haven't quite gotten over? Did you make 1, 2, or maybe many mistakes in your past or present relationship and do you wish you could change them? Did you make a recent mistake you regret? Tell us by leaving your comments below.
21 Top Mistakes Women Make With Men:
1. Telling a man you love him (first) if there hasn't been enough deep attraction and compatibility created inside the relationship
2. Often Calling/Texting him first when you've just met or always initiating the conversation
3. Often Calling/Texting him too early in the morning when you barely know each other, spending all day texting him
4. Spending hours on the phone talking about "deep" stuff, making him think you don't have a life
5. Giving him an ultimatum to take your relationship further, for example, "If we're NOT going to get married by xyz date, I'm going to breakup with you!"
6. Trying to talk him into making your relationship exclusive/giving you a commitment
7. Letting him see you lose your cool, being overly inappropriate with your emotions
8. Criticizing his buddies or family members and even doing it INFRONT of them
9. Drunk dialing his number because you haven't heard back from him
10. Stalking him – even hacking into his email or stalking him on facebook
11. Losing it in front of him because he's broken up with you and constantly getting into temper tantrums
12. Constantly criticizing him or the person he left you for
13. Telling him you have feelings for him first and expecting or even implying he should feel the same way
14. Sending him angry text messages/emails because he's pissed you off. Sometimes you need to let a man know how you feel though
and standing up for yourself is great but best to communicate via phone about that.
15. Seeing him more than 3 times a week when you've just started dating AND telling him he should date only you
16. Telling him about your "horrible" past because you think it will make him feel closer to you and talking about your ex's with him
17. Asking him out first or asking him to meetup with you if you've been chatting with him online
18. Trying to get him MORE interested in you the WRONG way and always finding a way to chat him up
19. Angrily telling him how you feel because you think he should ask you out again or if he's made plans but you didn't hear back from him
20. Nagging him consistently about the same thing over and over again
21a. Sleeping with him way too soon and now he's lost interest in you, being his friend with benefits, or sleeping with him when he's already in another relationship
21b. Cheating on him or breaking up with him and now you regret it
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I had a long distance relationship with an old high school friend and I made every mistake in the book! I became exclusive too fast, followed his pace with the relationship and allowed him to go hot and cold, texted him constantly when he was not texting me. This has been going on for 3 months now and I finally had enough. Of course, this happened while we were texting and I found out he had been seeing other women. I told him I had no interest in being one of his string and that if he ever decided he wanted something more to get in touch. After that I broke off all contact and have not spoken or texted him in a week. I am heartbroken but realize that this was mostly my fault. I let him walk all over me and never set any boundaries and I chased him. I let our past create a false sense of exclusivity that should have never entered the picture so soon! I wish I could turn back time and have a do over but realize that it is probably too late. I have started dating again and even though none of them have come close to the one I want, I just have to realize that it's not going to be, get over it, and move on.
Nicloe I am so gulity of at least 10 of the above items so I need help. It feels like you lose a piece of your self and dignity everything a woman make these mistakes. How can it ever be fixed???? Also on question 17….I do not agree, in this day and age why is it wrong to ask a man out??? It shows confidence
I stayed with a man after finding out 2 yrs into the relationship that he was married. He came back into my life in 2003. I made so many mistakes for 5 yrs straight.(We’ve known each other for 13yrs and dated for a few months when i was 18) I let myself fall so deep in love. We had a baby and about 3 mos later he left me. I know my mistakes but how do i move on. We’ve been apart for 3 yrs come october and i feel stuck. Its like i’m scared to not love him but in my mind i know its what needs to happen so i can meet the man that is absolutely for me.this isnt an excuse but im 30 yrs old and he was my first serious, i want marriage relationship. So looking back i see the inexperience on my part. Oh, and he’s 8 yrs older than me. I think differently about what type of relationship i want next and what i will accept in a relationships. I’m want to date again but i’m not sure i’m ready emotionally and mentally. He is a big liar and cheater. Any advice on moving on Nicole.
I have made many of those mistakes with a guy I met a few months ago. We hit it off really well really fast but then he backed up into a friend relationship saying he didn't know what he wanted. He seemed really happy that we could go back to just being friends. I had to move back home after I finished school and now live an hour away. But he keeps trying to come up and his plans always fall through. I've already pretty much stopped texting him and wait until he talks to me first. It usually takes him around 4-6 days to get back to me. He gets protective at times if I'm upset about something or if it comes to anything dealing with other guys. When we are together we have a great time and he relaxes and tells me things that bother him or any decisions he's trying to make. He told me he respects me and values my opinion. We are very close. It seems at many times, that we ARE in a relationship. My biggest mistake from above was that I told him I loved him first. I would like your advice on what I should do Nicole.
Wow, I have to say your list of 21 mistakes reads like a woman with a SERIOUS immaturity problem. I am thankful my dad pounded into my head to NEVER chase a man! That has saved me lots and lots of heartache. I let the man I married chase ME.
I believe I made the mistake involving myself to soon intimately. However, he has not stopped talking to me because of it. The plan is to change this situation around and show him that it will not happen again. The number one mistake you can make is going to his house. I knew that but thought I could walk away. As far as the list I this is the one thing I do. If this goes anywhere is not improtant to me. But I'm glad that it happened it helped me realize that I really am looking for something more official and long lasting.
Im guilty at most ten of of the mistakes above and now he stopped calling me
Everything was going well for the first week we met, things were so wonderful i made a mistake of letting my guard down when I knew I shouldn't. I was always trying to chat him up & i was too available for him thinking that its something i had to do since he's always so busy with work. I did more mistakes after that and I really regret it. Is there really a way to recover from all these mistakes and make him intersted to chase me again even when he stopped calling or texting? I refuse to start a conversation with him again this time because I know i deserve better. But i do really want to know how to regain bck his interest in me even more now after he stopped seeing me.
Hello Candy, thanks for commenting. Have you heard about my new guide for women “How to Get out of the Friend Zone with a Man Fast?” It is also useful to help to create the opportunity to rebuild attraction with a Man, check it out here:
http://www.attractingmenmastery.com/how-to-get-out-of-the-friend-zone-with-a-man-fast-in-3-simple-steps/
If you want a chance to naturally:
*Get out of the friend zone
*Get his interest back
*See if a man you’re interested in is also interested in you
*Get the interest of a cute co-worker or a guy in your circle
*Increase attraction up to 70% – the degree most men fall into
that makes them want to pursue women
Thank u very much for your reply nichole. I will get the guide u recommended to me asap. But is there any way for me to be able to reach you just incase i have more questions? I really do appreciate recommendations/guidelines on how to recover from my mistakes & ways to regain his interest.
I made too many mistakes :'( I let him control but got angry with him (like sending him angry text msgs) for not responding to me like how I want him to. Worse part, I confronted him & ask about what's going to happen to us next ? as much as i know my intention was only to find out whether we're still going to see each other after I said things to him he didn't like, he must've felt that I was trying to make him commit exclusively. That was the last time I saw him.
To be honest I don't blame him for disappearing, I know why. I was too easy, that it bores him. I played my part wrong and let my emotions control me. Let alone be the fact that we had only known each other for less than a month!
Now, It has been 3 days since the last time i heard frm him. I have urges & temptations to contact him but I'm not going to make any moves until im sure with what i need to do in order to make him chase me again. i don't want to end up making more mistakes during this process & I would really appreciate your guide
Hi Candy, yes, you can write me at: nicole@attractingmenmastery.com
Will this work even when the guy has stopped calling and we no longer see each other?
Hi Elly, at the end of the article, there is a link that gives you an opportunity to learn why men disappear. I also have a guide that helps you create an “opportunity”…that is what the focus is on, creating the opportunity instead of focusing on results. You can read more here: Here’s an awesome testimonial from a female customer: “Hi Nicole,your ebook on getting out of the friend zone is awesome. The techniques will do my heart a world of good. I took your advice and stepped outside the box ” Check it out here:
http://www.attractingmenmastery.com/how-to-get-out-of-the-friend-zone-with-a-man-fast-in-3-simple-steps/
Hi Candy, you can also check out Evan’s work. He’s written a guide, “Why He Disappeared” check it out at the bottom of this post here: http://www.attractingmenmastery.com/2011/03/21-top-mistakes-women-make-with-men-and-how-to-recover/