Should I Just Move On?

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QUESTION>>>>

Hi Nicole,

I recently broke up with my boyfriend after 2 years because we were not moving in the direction of a future together. Since then, I have not contacted him but am extremely distraught over the loss of our relationship. He is a great guy but still has some growing up to do. He has made minimal attempts to contact me but I have been strong and not responded. His family has been in contact with me to express their remorse over our break up. I would consider getting back with him if we were working on a serious future with one another. My question is, do I just continue to hold my ground of not calling or responding although it is eating away at me every minute? How long does it take for the male to generally reach out to a woman other than in a text message? Should I just be moving on?

Shay

ANSWER>>>>>>

Hi Shay,
Yes, you should continue holding your ground because of
a few reasons.

1. Right now you aren't really "compatible" – meaning
you're both not on the same page when it comes to having a future
together so you want to allow the space in between you to act
as a buffer so that you can watch and see if the relationship
you have now will come into alignment with your values.

2. Do not contact him even though you are distraught over the breakup,
you must take it one day at a time and learn to shift your mindset into
creating more of your inner sexy, harness your inner power and cultivating
your sense of self. It's no surprise that he's made minimal attempts to contact
you..this is because his ego is hurt and men generally aren't the "nurturers"
in relationship so they usually don't do the "work" that women would do.

His way of communication will be different from yours. When guys are hurt or distraught,
they usually don't really stay in contact where women usually want to reach out
and talk about the problem.

3. You should work on building a much more powerful life so that you aren't making the relationship as your "identity" – so many women make this really dangerous mistake of holding onto a relationship as their primary form of happiness. Even though your friends might push you to get back or family might want you to be together, you must understand how attraction works and that you need to have both attraction and compatibility with someone in order for it to work out in the end.

It may feel bad bacause of your emotional investment but remain in a state of gratitude for all you've learned and that the relationship contributed to your life's journey in a positive way.

Hope this helps. Talk soon,
Nicole

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