Come out of Blame and Into Power
I just saw an awesome profile update over on facebook from one of my friends which inspired me to write this post. She talks about the bullshit of being angry at men, being angry at the masculine and how this is a total cop-out for not wanting to face our own stuff, not wanting to look in the mirror. And I do agree that the fight we have, the anger we stew in over men and the bitch cycles we go on over what men are or aren't doing has nothing to do with them at all.
I hope you're ready to get this!
I spoke with a married woman yesterday who was frustrated at her husband and when I asked her how her husband is, she told me he's a dog. WTF is that? Why are we as women giving our power away to men to the place where we are so disgusted with their behavior that we end up stomping on the masculine? I said this to her in THE most diplomatic way possible: "I realized in the past when I thought a man was a dog, it was because there was a bitch in me somewhere to match it"
She half-heartedly agreed.
It really doesn't matter that a man did something to you, what really matters is coming into a greater understanding that you were a participant. You helped to create it. You tolerated it. You gave yourself permission to put up with it even if you don't think you did. When you begin to "get" this and own this fact, you are ready to step into power.
You cannot step into your power if you are still being the victim. You have to come out of blame in order to be free. And if you carry around a blamer energy, you will continue to ATTRACT men that will respond to that same energy. So today you have a choice in the matter.
I know it might hurt like hell if you feel taken advantage of over and over again. But the real rage is from within. You're really pissed off at yourself. Not him. And it is directed at your man or the man who hurt you but it is coming from a place of violence turned inward.
Whether you are married, have a boyfriend, or have been in and out of relationships or have an ex husband you're pissed off at, it is time to rise up into your true feminine power of honoring and loving yourself enough to tell yourself the truth.
The truth I came into is: I am my own creator and I am my own savior. Nothing need to change from the outside to make me happy. I needed to change in order to be happy and when I surrendered to this, I was able to walk in my own power and create my own happiness.
There are many relationships we may encounter with men, for me, my ex husband was my pisser-offer. When we broke up, I had such rage towards him, it ended up making my body toxic.
The thing is, I felt so unworthy to accept my own power that I turned against myself. I felt so undeserving of truly loving myself and being a powerful creator of my good that I rathered raging at him instead. And it worked for a while for me to live from a victim space.
Growing into your own powerful space isn't an easy task. It takes a commitment to yourself to choose to walk through the gates of forgiveness and move on a consistent path of personal power.
But it is worth it.
I'm still on this journey of walking in my personal power and one power tip I can give that I've incorporated into my life to expand that space is as simple as looking into the mirror on a consistent basis and saying: "I love you and don't you ever forget that!"
PRACTISE THIS POWER TIP TODAY:
Look into the mirror. Really look and feel your presence there. Connect with the image without judgement or criticism. Look into your own eyes, take a deep breath then exhale. After exhaling, touch your face while still looking into your own eyes and say, "I love you and don't you ever forget it!"
I believe in your potential and you are loved in every way.
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xxox
Nicole
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