Attracting Men Mastery

Top 2 Things Men are Terrified Of (and How to Help Without Letting Them Know You Know)

Nicole Abundance — Fri, 10 May 2013 19:47:39 +0000

Top 2 Things Men are Terrified Of (and How to Help Without Letting Them Know You Know)
By Claire Casey

He will never tell you any of this.

In fact, he’s dying to read this article, but he would never let you catch him doing it, and he certainly won’t admit to wanting to know if his deep, dark secrets are hanging out like underwear on a clothesline. In the front yard. In the middle of a busy city. (Hah!)

Well, he won’t tell you, but I will. But first, two warnings:

First, this isn’t a complete list. Of course! But I think these are the two biggest ones. (I’m working on more articles about a few of the others…)

Second, I’m not telling you so you can shame him. I’m doing this so you can help him. But you have to be sneaky, so that he doesn’t know. Be nice to your man – he worships the ground you walk on, and believe me, he knows a few of your dirty dark secrets, too. On to the juice, shall we?

GUY FEAR #1: My sexual desires are NOT okay

I won’t tell you that old thing about how guys want waaay more sex that women do, because it’s actually not true. Women want it, we just want it under different terms. He just… wants it. Every possible way he can imagine it. With your sister, your mom, the librarian (definitely the librarian), the teenager snapping her gum behind the cash register. He’s even had a dirty fantasy about that weird shopping cart lady.

Sex movies of every description (multiple lovers, bondage, fetish, you name it) run in his brain nearly all the time, and sometimes what’s showing on the screen shocks even him.

Deep down, he’s terrified that he wants sex too much, or in the wrong ways, with the wrong people. His sex drive is a formidable machine, and it’s a testament to his power that he doesn’t let it drive his life, only his brain.

What YOU can do to help him

Creating an atmosphere of openness in your intimate life with him is the first step in making him feel less scared about his sexual desire. I’m not saying you have to DO everything that he THINKS about, but be willing to ask him to talk about his fantasies. Invite him to give you steamy details. Even the act of sharing can be a tremendous gift of sexual energy between the two of you.

Help him learn to make YOU the star of his sexual mind shows, even if all you do is tell him a dirty story during foreplay.
And finally, don’t forget to let him know you’re sexually satisfied! If you can do this, he’s going to become so riveted by you he’ll never want to let you go. EVERY man wants to know he can sexually satisfy a woman.

GUY FEAR #2: Other men will think I’m weak

You gotta feel for the men of our world. They’re expected to get a respectable paycheck, make us feel secure, (not think about sex so much), beat out the other guys, support the winning team, be tough, overcome all the obstacles in their way, scare away the bad guys, and never show fatigue, fear, or ANYthing except sheer strength and confidence. It’s a lot to live up to.
It’s impossible to live up to, actually.

And yet that’s the challenge they hear every single day. And if they don’t answer it – actually DOMINATE it – their fear is that they will be publicly shamed, humiliated, despised… Not so much by you or by other women (although they hate the idea of that, too), but by other MEN.

But that doesn’t mean YOU don’t have power. Every man wants a woman who is unreservedly, whole-heartedly ON HIS SIDE. Your support actually adds to his power in the world of other men.

What YOU can do to help him

I have a question for you: if he’s fighting away on the field of his life, do you ever even show up at his game? And if you do, can he hear your enthusiastic, genuine support for him?

I’m not saying you have to actually get out your cheerleader skirt and shimmy and shout (although he’ll probably appreciate that, see #1 above!), but there IS a way to let him know you’re seeing how hard he works, and you want him to win.
Encourage him to tell you about his daily battles. Lean in and attentively soak up every bit. Ask for details. Don’t multitask while you’re doing this; give him your full focus. Be his raving fan.

And offer him your sincere admiration. Let him know how strong you find him, how amazing his accomplishments and abilities are. If you can make him feel like you believe in him and are on his side no matter what, you are going to ADDICT him to you.

3 Steps to make a man love you

If you’re sick of “Bad Boys,” “Players” and guys who just won’t commit, you need to go watch this new video renowned relationship expert Michael Fiore put up. It’s called “3 Steps To Make A Man Love You” and  it teaches you how to make a man not just “fall” for a you… But to actually make him obsessed with you so HE decides he WANTS to be serious…
–> Make him powerfully addicted (in a really good way) to you!

Michael lays out the absolute truth about what men  really want and need from a woman for them to be able to give EVERYTHING to her… (In fact, he flat out tells you how his girlfriend Captured His Heart and made him fall for her HARD even though  he was “playing the field” and thought he’d never settle down.)

Passion, Purpose and Polarity: Finding and Maintaining Intimate Relationship Course With David Deida Principles

Nicole Abundance — Sun, 09 Sep 2012 02:09:35 +0000

I just came across this new feminine immersion course offered by the En*theos Academy using David Deida Principles for women, I am beyond excited!!

I signed up right away and I am encouraging every woman who reads this to do the same without hesitation by clicking on the banner below!

The man I am connecting with is a huge David Deida fan and the quality of our relationship based on these principles is beyond words. The intimacy, polarity and communication is extremely powerful.

Whether you are single, attached or married, I invite you to do this without hesitation and enroll in the course starting September 20. The course is on polarity and a 5 day Woman's Immersion where you will have a chance to take call in live and download MP3's.

Here's a little more about the course:

In this 5-week interactive course with Michaela Boehm, you will explore your essence, learn how to cultivate masculine and feminine and how to offer your distinct gifts to your lover as an offering for passion and sexual ecstasy. If you are single, you will discover how to attract a partner with the right polarity. If you are in a relationship, you will learn how to cultivate passion and take your relationship to the next level.

Click on the banner to sign up now and see you on the call!

Don’t Do this 1 Thing When He Pulls Away

Nicole Abundance — Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:51:04 +0000

You’ve got to read this fantastic article I just came across. It’s by Randy Bennett, a licensed relationship therapist, who has stumbled onto a special technique you can use to get your man to treat you like he did when you first started dating – for good! Here it is below – I hope you enjoy.

Nicole

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Have you ever wondered why some men treat their women like a princess even well PAST the dating phase?

Even after many years these guys STILL buy flowers, they remember EVERY special occasion and they give their women their FULL attention when they are with them.

They NEVER retreat to the garage, NEVER ignore them to watch the football game on TV and NEVER disappear for hours on end to play golf with their “buddies”.

Well recent reports from relationship scientists (yes, those do exist!) say that you can actually get that exact SAME love, attention and warmth from your man, regardless of how long you’ve been together or how rocky your relationship may be.

The Secret to Getting Your Man to Treat YOU Like a Princess…

The secret to unlocking this same love and affection from your man is probably something you’ve never considered.

But once you know the secret, you can literally change your man and influence him to treat you better…even like a princess.

Now before you accuse me of heresy, let me explain by asking you a question:

Is there something you or your man does that REALLY gets him going?

You know what I’m talking about… maybe it’s a word, or a certain look, maybe a flick of the hand or a shoulder shrug – something that REALLY gets under his skin?

Whatever it is you KNOW it drives him batty and the result is typically the same.

Within milliseconds, his face turns the color of a boiled lobster; his heart practically leaps out of his chest and he either explodes with rage, he runs away to the garage and you don’t see him for hours, or he just sits there…stone-faced, not saying a word.

WHAT just happened?

His Brain Was Just Hijacked…

Familiar with the fight or flight response? Well, you just witnessed it and it’s the reason why a simple argument can turn into an all-out war.

Every one of us has a little internal guard on duty 24/7 in our brain. It’s called the amygdala and it’s a small walnut-sized part of your brain responsible for alerting the body to danger.

The amygdala processes incoming information and automatically searches your memory bank to determine if it recognizes the information as friend or foe.

All of this happens instantly, and if the brain has memory of that word or action and the memory is bad… the body goes into an automatic negative response over which you have almost NO control.

It’s called neural hijacking and it literally stops love, warmth and intimacy from being able to enter the relationship.

And this automatic negative response is triggered by those little shoulder shrugs, those eye rolls…and anything else you may do that has conditioned your man to react negatively.

And once this happens, it’s game over – your man won’t listen to ANYTHING you say after this and you’ll both go round and round with finger-pointing, name-calling and laying blame on each other.

How to Eliminate these Triggers and Establish a Deep Emotional Connection…

The good news is that you can uncover what these triggers are (for BOTH of you) and set the stage for both of you to plant, nurture and harvest new feelings of love and intimacy.

Here’s exactly what you do:

First, think of a few actions you know set him off. Be specific. You know what they are, if you dig deep enough — you use a “tone,” you make a face, you have a specific phrase you say when discussing a touchy subject, whatever.

And when you use any of these things, you get a negative response out of him. Write those down now and remember them.

Second, go straight to the source: ask him what you do that sets off his emotional firebombs. But don’t get defensive…let him have his say…just listen.

He may feel reluctant at first to share, or maybe he’s not even aware that there might be something specific linked to his going off. Regardless, after you begin compiling your list here is what you do…

Avoid those words or actions at ALL COSTS.

It’s as simple as that.

Unless you really want to end up a divorce statistic or you really enjoy sifting through dating sites, avoid doing those behaviors or saying those words that cause problems in your relationship.

Once these are gone…your partner won’t have those mental blocks or love filters, and you’ll have a much easier time building intimacy and affection again.

This really works and I’ve been using this tip and several others for 25 years, teaching it to every woman who comes to me wanting to know how to melt her man’s heart…and in return, have her man treat her like he did when they first started dating – like a princess!

I wish you the best.

Randall E. Bennett, MA, LMFT, LCPC

P.S. Due to the overwhelming response I’ve received about these relationship triggers that can cause a good relationship to go bad, I recently put together a video that explains in much more detail exactly how you can eliminate them to develop a deep emotional connection with your man. Click Here Now

Nobody really talks about this technique and it’s a shame, because it’s extremely powerful and works in almost any situation.

It’s something you MUST know if you want to understand exactly what your man REALLY wants, what makes him tick, and how to get him to shower you with the love, care and affection that you deserve…not because you are forcing him to do it, but because he actually WANTS to do it.

So, sit back, relax and go watch my video as I am not sure how much longer I will have it up. Watch Video Here

Research reveals surprising things about women who get strung along versus women who get proposed to

Nicole Abundance — Thu, 28 Jun 2012 05:52:24 +0000

The survey that reveals why some women get strung along while others get proposed to affirms what I have been sharing recently about what it means to be a powerful woman in your life, in your relationship and while dating.

Men hunt light.

What does this mean?

What it means is the true nature of the feminine is JOY. This is what men are really attracted to. Men are deeply attracted to women who are completely "awake" in their JOY. When a woman is "IN JOY" she lives from the present moment, radiates with light and this is what men go after, this is what really quenches their thirst, what really brings them into desiring a true long term commitment.

According to the survey: "Women who were playful and positive seemed to attract long-term commitments from men. Men were surveyed while leaving the marriage license bureaus. It revealed that men's number one reason for initial attraction to a woman was her energetic and positive attitude"

In his program "Be Irresistible" – James Bauer shares why responding to a man where he feels this other "magic" feeling, will help to deepen his connection and desire for you. Watch his video here

Is it Your Fault That You’re Still Single?

Nicole Abundance — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 16:03:41 +0000

If you’re perpetually single, stuck in an unhealthy relationship, or are a “serial monogamist” (someone who gets involved with one wrong person after another, never resulting in a long term commitment), I have good news.
It’s not your fault.
According to dating coach and relationship expert Paige Parker, the reason why so many women can’t find the love of their dreams is because they are set up for failure from a young age.
“We’ve been fed a big LIE by Hollywood and society,” explains Parker, “which causes us to have majorly skewed expectations of a romantic partner.”
Without healthy expectations, it’s nearly impossible to create a lasting relationship. The only way to find true love – and keep it – is for each partner to be clear on what they can offer one another, and what needs are theirs alone to fulfill.
But starting as young girls, playing with Barbie dolls and watching Disney fairy tale movies, women are conditioned to believe that life will finally be perfect once their “Prince Charming” rides in on his white horse and rescues her.
It’s no wonder you probably spend a lot of time waiting for “The One,” and not nearly as much time feeling happy in your own skin.
Well, even though being single or unhappy is not your fault,you still have the power to take responsibility and regain control of your love life.
If you’d like to discover exactly what this “BIG LIE” is, how it’s been sabotaging your chances at finding – and keeping  –  “The One,” and learn the two simple steps to turn your love life around starting today, then you need to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video right now…
Click here to watch the video
The link may not be up for long, so if you’re ready for the truth that will finally set you free (and send you into the arms of Mr. Right), it’s time to do something just for you and watch this video now.
Click here to watch the video
 

The #1 Lie That Kills Every Relationship

Nicole Abundance — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 14:07:49 +0000

Everyone tells lies sometimes. (We’re human, after all.)

Especially in relationships.

Sure, plenty are harmless, little white lies told with the best intentions (“No honey, of course your butt doesn’t look big in those jeans” comes to mind…).

But some lies are so big, so pervasive, so utterlydestructive, that they can completely sabotage relationships between even the most compatible couples.

So what IS the #1 Lie that kills every relationship?

Is it claiming to be committed and monogamous when you’re really not?
Is it keeping secrets about the past (your number of exes, a past marriage perhaps)?
Is it pretending to like the same things – even believe the same way about fundamental matters (like finances and faith) – when you actually don’t?
Is it saying “I love you” when you’re really not sure?

All really good guesses, but according to world-renowned relationship expert Paige Parker, none of these is the correct answer.

In fact, the #1 Lie isn’t even told by the man or woman involved in the relationship.

It’s a lie that’s pulled over on all of us… BY SOCIETY.

A complete and total un-truth perpetuated by Hollywood; One most of us buy into hook, line, and sinker as early on in life as our first dating experience.

So what IS this lie and how is it sabotaging your chances at finding “The One” and having the loving, passionate, healthy, committed relationship you deserve?

Check out this mind-blowing video by Paige herself that exposes this deadly lie…and then tells you how to change your mind set in two easy steps so you can finally have true love.

Click here to watch the video

This video could come down at any time….So if you’re tired of being alone or blindly suffering through one unfulfilling relationship after another, stop what you’re doing and click on this link right now.

Click here to watch the video

From Sleeping Princess to Awakened Queen

Nicole Abundance — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 21:41:42 +0000

I've been on a personal journey lately where I am learning to grow deeper into manifesting my empress light. This journey is teaching me to move more away from external forms of what it means to be a woman, into internal forms of what it means to show up as a feminine Awakened Queen.

So I've been finding out within myself that there is a difference between being a woman and being feminine. Being a woman is about biology while being feminine is about energy.

There are so many inner stories, thoughts, beliefs and ideas that keep us from fully awakening into our glorious and beautiful selves. I often hear women while coaching talk about their lack, their lack of self confidence, their lack of belief in themselves, their lack of self love.

I completely understand this, and at times still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The journey is a worthwhile one, and going from woman to feminine will take us on a goddess journey of both tapping deeper into our fears, towards our purest selves in a way where we realize our real potentiality and real sufficiency.

And imagine what it's like to move past all the elements of worry, frustration and fear, especially how it shows up in us when it comes to our relationships with men – plus all of what have been placed on us as women to remain like little girls running around without vision, purpose and passion. Imagine what happens when a princess stays asleep waiting for her prince to come and wake her, waiting for life to wake her up, or waiting for people to meet her needs and make her happy.

Then going from that place to the Queen who rules her own heart. She has come into her state of "beingness" or on her journey of being reborn into what it really means to be a feminine light. This is the space of empress delight.

While I was in the shower the other day, this challenge came to me in a deep way. The challenge was to go from a princess mindset. The thought that came to me is: Nicole, how can you wake up other women, if you are not awake?

So my personal challenge both from my own inner source and a mentor is to fully awaken or keep waking up. And this is my call for you today, to go from what magazines, tv, friends, family, says about you, and walk in your Queenly Powers.

How can you serve and raise your inner Queen today:

I recently did this exercise. I placed my hand on my womb/belly and I began to bless the life giving source within me. I began to set my attention on the fact that I was a life giver. I said, "I bless you with strength. I bless you with peace. I bless you with joy, and I bless you with love. Thank you for your life giving presence in my life

When I completed the exercise. I noticed something magical. I noticed that because I blessed my womb, I woke up her life giving powers and in return, I felt more alive and revived because her source nurtured away my fears and worries.

What are ways you can wake up to being an awakened Queen? Please share:)

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How Does a Man Decide You’re the One?

Nicole Abundance — Sun, 08 Apr 2012 14:12:28 +0000

Do you know that men need more than love if they are ever to see you as "the one?"

It's true. Many women are stunned when a relationship they taught was great, ended because the man wanted to move on. Why do men stay with one woman for years, then leaves her to marry another woman shortly after?

When we were growing up as women, we are taught about the fairytale of prince charming. So many women get into relationships with their boyfriends and believe because their boyfriends are with them, that he's going to make the next step to want to marry them.

But this simple isn't true. And if you check the stats, you will see how much hurt and pain many women go through when they realize that they've been with their men for sometime but he's no where near wanting marriage.

Men don't grow up with the ideas of being prince charming. They have to come to a certain conclusion in their minds. Your man is just the same. He has to come to a certain conclusion in his mind about you, way beyond the idea of him loving you.

In order for this to happen for him, there are a variety of triggers that must go off over the period of your relationship. If you wonder why he isn't moving the relationship forward, it is because you may not have figured out how to pull those emotional triggers naturally.

The worst fear a woman has is investing alot of emotional time and energy in her relationship only to have it end without getting a ring. But you don't have to be that kind of woman. You can learn how to naturally be the woman your man wants to marry.

Faced with reports after reports that men don't commit, or men are commitment phobic, many women feel helpless because they don't really know how to make a man commit.

Getting a man to commit and marry you is a natural formula. When you see women who have men adore them, it is because they naturally follow the formula and any woman can learn how to do it.

Even a hard to land man is helpless against a woman who stands in her powerful feminine energy because she radiates in such a way that she gets inside his heart.

Men need to feel more than love, they need to be so full of deep emotional feelings for you in order for them to see a woman as "the one".

When you can make a man feel this way, you will get him to marry you and most women can learn how to trigger these deeper feelings in their men.

Whether you're in a relationship now or want to be in one…this is how you make a man see you as the "special woman" he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Watch This Now, You'll Be Happy You Did. http://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.net

How to Get the Guy by Matthew Hussey

Nicole Abundance — Fri, 02 Mar 2012 17:55:06 +0000

Check out Matthew's Top Guide Below:)

At GetTheGuy, we’ve conceived the One Giant Leap challenge as a way of uniting women on a mission, to take back rightful control over their love lives again. When we have control, we get confidence.

When we have confidence we feel like we draw power and satisfaction from our lives. We feel like we have the ability to make things happen. Most of us have areas of our lives where we feel like this, yet, in our love lives, most of us feel like we are subject to a cosmic dice roll; a hope that somehow we will “get lucky” one day and all of our relationship woes will be taken care of.

Over the next six months we want women everywhere to shed this mentality and send their love lives into the next stratosphere: If you are single and can’t seem to meet any new men – This leap year is for you.

If you can’t seem to get that cute guy at the party to come over – This leap year is for you. If you keep getting phone numbers and dates that lead nowhere – This leap year is for you.

If you are stuck in a relationship rut and need to just feel some excitement about your relationship again – This leap year is for you.

Mission 1 – Start three conversations with a complete stranger in the following: 1. A high street coffee shop 2. A bar 3. A queue 4. Apple Store – (guys adore gadgets!) Find any excuse – Ask him to recommend a muffin at the coffee shop, or ask him where he got his jacket (say you are thinking of buying one for your brother/nephew), or tell him you just bought an iPhone and want to know which apps he recommends downloading.

Mission 2 – Become a social host You are going to set up one night a week in which you invite at least 8 people to gather in a single venue. It could be at your house, at a cocktail bar, some kind of hobby/physical activity. It doesn’t matter if they all come; the point is, you start becoming the kind of person who brings other people together. WARNING: This is dangerously effective at boosting your social calendar. Expect to be inundated with invites once you start becoming a social butterfly.

Mission 3 – AT LEAST twice a week, if you see a man you are attracted to, you have to approach and compliment him And when you compliment him, make sure it’s for a something specific instead of saying “OMG, you’re gorgeous!”. Just say, “Look, someone has to tell you this, that jacket really suits you”. Or “I can’t let you leave without telling you what a great smile you have”. The more specific you make it, the more a guy is intrigued to know more. The aim of this exercise is: (a) To make you stretch out of your comfort zone and get used to meeting men you are actually attracted to (anyone can approach people they have no interest in!). (b) To make you less intimidated by looks – Most of us place a massive premium on looks. The more you approach people you find attractive, the less you are going to be thrown off just because of your physical attraction. You’ll actually start to become more discerning and not be fazed just because they happen to be pleasing to the eye.

Mission 4 – At any social event, you WILL talk to five strangers Most of us in life stick with the people we know, and miss out on hundreds of opportunities because of it. When you go to a party or gathering, make an effort to work out those social muscles. You can make this even more effective by making the following resolution: When the conversation falls flat, I will resolve to stay for five more minutes. Why is this resolution so important? Because you get into the habit of digging deeper to find something interesting to say, instead of immediately excusing yourself as soon as you’ve exhausted all the obvious conversations e.g. “How you know the host?” “What do you do for a living?” etc.

Mission 5 – Become a giver Go into a social event/work/gathering and bring cookies or ice cream for everyone. Then promise yourself you are going to give one to the three most attractive men you can find (you can even do this when you are out somewhere social – Just bring something along and tell people you are celebrating by giving out cakes etc.). Once you become generous, it’s an easy move to start conversations with just about anyone.

Mission 6 – Ask for a phone number In the spirit of the leap day tradition, try asking for a guy’s phone number. You wouldn’t believe how many men kick themselves for forgetting to ask for your phone number after a long conversation. So turn the tides and take the initiative yourself. Simply say “You seem fun, we should get our friends together sometime. Give me your number and we’ll arrange something”. Don’t ask, tell!

Mission 7 – If you get invited to fancy dress this year, you HAVE to go. And you HAVE to dress up Why the hell not?

Mission 8 – Send him more clues For the next few months you are going to use this magic phrase: “I love it when a guy…”. Is he wearing shoes you love? Tell him “I love it when a guy wears those boots/shoes/trainers etc.” Has he got a manly beard? Give it a playful tug and say “I love it when a guy has that rugged beard look”. Has he got big muscles? Playfully compare your arms with his and say “Wow, you’ve got me beat in the muscles department. I love a man who puts more hours in the gym than I do”.

Mission 9 – Go to a new venue/activity every week – And aim to speak to three new men when you get there.

Check out Matthew's Top Guide Below:)

Matthew Hussey and BBW on How to Create a Connection with a Man

Nicole Abundance — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 20:01:28 +0000

Ever Heard of Matthew Hussey? He's only one of THE most popular male dating coaches for women who's been so much in the meda, it's like he's been played 24/7. In this video he talks about how to create a connection with a man. Check out this video he did with blog founder Christelyn D. Karazin.

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Check out Matthew's Top Guide Below:)