I've been on a personal journey lately where I am learning to grow deeper into manifesting my empress light.  This journey is teaching me to move more away from external forms of what it means to be a woman, into internal forms of what it means to show up as a feminine Awakened Queen.

So I've been finding out within myself that there is a difference between being a woman and being feminine.  Being a woman is about biology while being feminine is about energy.

There are so many inner stories, thoughts, beliefs and ideas that keep us from fully awakening into our glorious and beautiful selves.  I often hear women while coaching talk about their lack, their lack of self confidence, their lack of belief in themselves, their lack of self love.  

I completely understand this, and at times still struggle with feelings of inadequacy.  The journey is a worthwhile one, and going from woman to feminine will take us on a goddess journey of both tapping deeper into our fears, towards our purest selves in a way where we realize our real potentiality and real sufficiency.

And imagine what it's like to move past all the elements of worry, frustration and fear, especially how it shows up in us when it comes to our relationships with men – plus all of what have been placed on us as women to remain like little girls running around without vision, purpose and passion.  Imagine what happens when a princess stays asleep waiting for her prince to come and wake her, waiting for life to wake her up, or waiting for people to meet her needs and make her happy.  

Then going from that place to the Queen who rules her own heart.  She has come into her state of "beingness"  or on her journey of being reborn into what it really means to be a feminine light.  This is the space of empress delight.

While I was in the shower the other day, this challenge came to me in a deep way.  The challenge was to go from a princess mindset.  The thought that came to me is: Nicole, how can you wake up other women, if you are not awake?

So my personal challenge both from my own inner source and a mentor is to fully awaken or keep waking up.  And this is my call for you today, to go from what magazines, tv, friends, family, says about you, and walk in your Queenly Powers.

How can you serve and raise your inner Queen today:

I recently did this exercise.  I placed my hand on my womb/belly and I began to bless the life giving source within me.  I began to set my attention on the fact that I was a life giver. I said, "I bless you with strength. I bless you with peace. I bless you with joy, and I bless you with love.  Thank you for your life giving presence in my life

When I completed the exercise. I noticed something magical.  I noticed that because I blessed my womb, I woke up her life giving powers and in return, I felt more alive and revived because her source nurtured away my fears and worries.

What are ways you can wake up to being an awakened Queen?  Please share:)

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Do you know that men need more than love if they are ever to see you as "the one?"

It's true. Many women are stunned when a relationship they taught was great, ended because the man wanted to move on. Why do men stay with one woman for years, then leaves her to marry another woman shortly after?

When we were growing up as women, we are taught about the fairytale of prince charming. So many women get into relationships with their boyfriends and believe because their boyfriends are with them, that he's going to make the next step to want to marry them.

But this simple isn't true. And if you check the stats, you will see how much hurt and pain many women go through when they realize that they've been with their men for sometime but he's no where near wanting marriage.

Men don't grow up with the ideas of being prince charming. They have to come to a certain conclusion in their minds. Your man is just the same. He has to come to a certain conclusion in his mind about you, way beyond the idea of him loving you.

In order for this to happen for him, there are a variety of triggers that must go off over the period of your relationship. If you wonder why he isn't moving the relationship forward, it is because you may not have figured out how to pull those emotional triggers naturally.

The worst fear a woman has is investing alot of emotional time and energy in her relationship only to have it end without getting a ring. But you don't have to be that kind of woman. You can learn how to naturally be the woman your man wants to marry.

Faced with reports after reports that men don't commit, or men are commitment phobic, many women feel helpless because they don't really know how to make a man commit.

Getting a man to commit and marry you is a natural formula. When you see women who have men adore them, it is because they naturally follow the formula and any woman can learn how to do it.

Even a hard to land man is helpless against a woman who stands in her powerful feminine energy because she radiates in such a way that she gets inside his heart.

Men need to feel more than love, they need to be so full of deep emotional feelings for you in order for them to see a woman as "the one".

When you can make a man feel this way, you will get him to marry you and most women can learn how to trigger these deeper feelings in their men.

Whether you're in a relationship now or want to be in one…this is how you make a man see you as the "special woman" he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Watch This Now, You'll Be Happy You Did. http://www.howtogofromgirlfriendtowife.net

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At GetTheGuy, we’ve conceived the One Giant Leap challenge as a way of uniting women on a mission, to take back rightful control over their love lives again. When we have control, we get confidence.

When we have confidence we feel like we draw power and satisfaction from our lives. We feel like we have the ability to make things happen. Most of us have areas of our lives where we feel like this, yet, in our love lives, most of us feel like we are subject to a cosmic dice roll; a hope that somehow we will “get lucky” one day and all of our relationship woes will be taken care of.

Over the next six months we want women everywhere to shed this mentality and send their love lives into the next stratosphere: If you are single and can’t seem to meet any new men – This leap year is for you.

If you can’t seem to get that cute guy at the party to come over – This leap year is for you. If you keep getting phone numbers and dates that lead nowhere – This leap year is for you.

If you are stuck in a relationship rut and need to just feel some excitement about your relationship again – This leap year is for you.

Mission 1 – Start three conversations with a complete stranger in the following: 1. A high street coffee shop 2. A bar 3. A queue 4. Apple Store – (guys adore gadgets!) Find any excuse – Ask him to recommend a muffin at the coffee shop, or ask him where he got his jacket (say you are thinking of buying one for your brother/nephew), or tell him you just bought an iPhone and want to know which apps he recommends downloading.

Mission 2 – Become a social host You are going to set up one night a week in which you invite at least 8 people to gather in a single venue. It could be at your house, at a cocktail bar, some kind of hobby/physical activity. It doesn’t matter if they all come; the point is, you start becoming the kind of person who brings other people together. WARNING: This is dangerously effective at boosting your social calendar. Expect to be inundated with invites once you start becoming a social butterfly.

Mission 3 – AT LEAST twice a week, if you see a man you are attracted to, you have to approach and compliment him And when you compliment him, make sure it’s for a something specific instead of saying “OMG, you’re gorgeous!”. Just say, “Look, someone has to tell you this, that jacket really suits you”. Or “I can’t let you leave without telling you what a great smile you have”. The more specific you make it, the more a guy is intrigued to know more. The aim of this exercise is: (a) To make you stretch out of your comfort zone and get used to meeting men you are actually attracted to (anyone can approach people they have no interest in!). (b) To make you less intimidated by looks – Most of us place a massive premium on looks. The more you approach people you find attractive, the less you are going to be thrown off just because of your physical attraction. You’ll actually start to become more discerning and not be fazed just because they happen to be pleasing to the eye.

Mission 4 – At any social event, you WILL talk to five strangers Most of us in life stick with the people we know, and miss out on hundreds of opportunities because of it. When you go to a party or gathering, make an effort to work out those social muscles. You can make this even more effective by making the following resolution: When the conversation falls flat, I will resolve to stay for five more minutes. Why is this resolution so important? Because you get into the habit of digging deeper to find something interesting to say, instead of immediately excusing yourself as soon as you’ve exhausted all the obvious conversations e.g. “How you know the host?” “What do you do for a living?” etc.

Mission 5 – Become a giver Go into a social event/work/gathering and bring cookies or ice cream for everyone. Then promise yourself you are going to give one to the three most attractive men you can find (you can even do this when you are out somewhere social – Just bring something along and tell people you are celebrating by giving out cakes etc.). Once you become generous, it’s an easy move to start conversations with just about anyone.

Mission 6 – Ask for a phone number In the spirit of the leap day tradition, try asking for a guy’s phone number. You wouldn’t believe how many men kick themselves for forgetting to ask for your phone number after a long conversation. So turn the tides and take the initiative yourself. Simply say “You seem fun, we should get our friends together sometime. Give me your number and we’ll arrange something”. Don’t ask, tell!

Mission 7 – If you get invited to fancy dress this year, you HAVE to go. And you HAVE to dress up Why the hell not?

Mission 8 – Send him more clues For the next few months you are going to use this magic phrase: “I love it when a guy…”. Is he wearing shoes you love? Tell him “I love it when a guy wears those boots/shoes/trainers etc.” Has he got a manly beard? Give it a playful tug and say “I love it when a guy has that rugged beard look”. Has he got big muscles? Playfully compare your arms with his and say “Wow, you’ve got me beat in the muscles department. I love a man who puts more hours in the gym than I do”.

Mission 9 – Go to a new venue/activity every week – And aim to speak to three new men when you get there.

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Ever Heard of Matthew Hussey?  He's only one of THE most popular male dating coaches for women who's been so much in the meda, it's like he's been played 24/7.  In this video he talks about how to create a connection with a man. Check out this video he did with blog founder Christelyn D. Karazin.  

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Ever Heard of Matthew Hussey?  He's only one of THE most popular male dating coaches for women who's been so much in the meda, it's like he's been played 24/7.  Check out this video he did with blog founder  Christelyn D. Karazin.  

Click here to view the embedded video.

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When it Comes to Men, Some Women Have It…and You Can Too!

by Bob Grant, L.P.C. author of “The Woman Men Adore”

Every day in my counseling office, I hear women say some variation of this: 

“In the last few years, I have had relationships with men who, at first, seemed perfect for me.  They were attentive, attractive and fun to be around.  Then suddenly, as if they knew they had reeled me in, they stopped trying.  They stopped calling as much, stopped taking me out and basically stopped the romantic dance that couples do when they are falling in love.  Was it me?  After all, I think I’m attractive, have a good personality and I work out to keep my body in nice shape.  So why then, do I always end up with the men who become “couch potatoes” at my house?  The men who would rather bring a six pack over and watch football all day and then expect me to fix dinner?  Do I suddenly turn into just a “buddy” to them, the girl next door? 

I see other women who, frankly, are not as attractive as I am or as thin as I am, who seem to get the “hot” men.  I don’t necessarily mean gorgeous men, but the men who take them to nice restaurants, bring them flowers, take them dancing and, basically, “court” them.  What secrets do they know that I don’t, because they certainly aren’t sharing them?”

Most women think a wonderful relationship is simply about finding the right man. The truth is that those women who have wonderful relationships didn’t necessarily know where to find good men, instead they attracted them. Would you like to learn how to attract and keep a wonderful man? The best way to find out probably isn’t by talking to a woman; instead, a man would be able to give you the secrets to a man’s heart.

I’d like to share with you the secrets that men find irresistible and powerless to resist. The dirty little secret is that having a perfect body isn’t nearly as important as you have been led to believe. You can discover this incredible information by simply clicking here.

Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. What’s a woman to do?

Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.

1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”

2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.

3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.

If you liked these insights, there are more available in Bob Grant’s wonderful e-book called, “The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave.” Bob Grant, L.P.C., has taken his 17 years of private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach and condensed only the best information into a mouth-watering, powerful handbook on what men find themselves powerless to resist in a woman. You can have this information simply by clicking here. 

You’re on a third date with a guy.

He looks you in the eyes, lovingly. 

He grabs your hand.

He offers up a nervous smile. 

And he says, in a romantic whisper…

“You know, I’ve been thinking about you a lot since we first met last Tuesday. And I feel we’ve got some amazing chemistry that I don’t get very often on my other coffee dates. For that reason, I think that you could be the one for me. So… are you dating anybody else right now? Are you serious about marriage and having kids? Are you interested in spending the holidays with my family? Where is this relationship going?”

Check, please!

These are the kind of words you want to hear eventually from a guy you’ve learned to care about; they are not what you want to hear from a total stranger who doesn’t know anything about you.

In fact, it’s kind of weird for a guy to “just know” that he wants a commitment with you so soon. Right? Sure, you want to be treated like a princess… but only by a man who really understands you and sees you for who you are inside.

He’s so positive about you that it makes you question his judgment – and lessens your attraction to him instantly.

Click here to learn more: Why Men Disappear and How to Keep Him Interested

If it’s obvious that it’s in bad form for a guy to want to discuss a future with you soon after you’ve met, then why isn’t it obvious that the same rule applies to you as well?

Trying to figure out where a relationship is going too soon is a surefire way to scare a man away, just like you get scared off by those too-eager guys.

C’mon…we’ve all been there before.

You meet a “great guy”. 

You “want to know where things are going”…

…so that you “don’t waste your time”

…on a man “who may not want to commit” 

…and has the “potential to hurt you” just like your last boyfriend.

And because of all of these fears, you immediately start tensing up, looking for red flags, trying to get clarity, making sure the other shoe doesn’t drop.

Suddenly, the excitement and passion of new love is replaced by…

- “How come your profile is still up?”

- “I haven’t heard from you all day, is everything okay?”

- “When do you see yourself having kids?”

- “Do you have a good relationship with your exes? Why did you break up?”

- “Let’s talk about ‘us’…”

Your pure intention is to protect yourself from getting hurt.

But what HE sees is an interrogation about his character and your future – from a woman that he’s known for less than a month. 

Very quickly, your relationship turns from fun and playful to fearful and intense. 

And why?

Because you expect him to know after a few weeks that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and that he’s never going to leave you.

Can you see how unfair that is? Can you see how unrealistic that is?

Commitment is serious, and it’s impossible for a reasonable man with any integrity or life experience to definitively tell you that he’ll love you forever. 

That’s why he’s dating you – to figure out over the next few years whether you’re “the one” before he proposes. Asking – or expecting – your man to make a promise that he can’t keep is essentially asking him to do one of two things:

1) Lie to you – “Yes, I love you and will never even think of another woman!”

2) Leave – because the pressure is too great and it’s not worth his time to put up with someone who makes such unreasonable demands.

This is not to say that you shouldn’t expect a ring after 2+ years. 

In fact, you should definitely walk away if your relationship isn’t growing and escalating and providing you with the security you desire.

All I’m saying is that if you want to make it to 2+ years, you have to allow him to fall in love with you organically. 

You can’t protect yourself from ever being hurt by asking for answers too early.

Just as you would run from the man who wants to marry you right away, we flee from women who want to know the future before we even know it.

So just sit back, enjoy the ride, and realize that the right man will WANT to commit to you by his own volition. You don’t have to DO anything to make it happen.

To learn how to play it cool and get the man you desire to fall for you, check out my eBook, “Why He Disappeared”, which tells you how men think and how you can connect with us during those tenuous first few weeks together.

Click here to learn more: Why He Disappeared and How to Keep Men Interested in You

Within minutes, you’ll have more power and control over your own destiny, and you’ll never again make the same mistakes that push men away.

Click here to erase a lifetime of pain and frustration.

If you're like most women you've probably been
lied to by a man . . .

To be honest with you I've been lied to many many times myself so I can pretty much guarantee it.

 
The simple fact is, men
lie to women all the time . . . 
 
About little things . ..
 
About big things . . .
 
About things that don't seem to matter at all . . . 
 
And a lot of women want to know WHY?
 
WHY can't he just tell me the truth?
 
My friend Michael Fiore (he's a nationally
known relationship expert who's helped thousands
of women understand men and who even appeared on
Rachael Ray) says there's actually THREE reasons
that men lie to women (and two of them
are actually pretty innocent . . . here's the first
one that tends to SHOCK a lot of women.)
 
Michael says that men lie to women because men are
SCARED of women.
 
Not physically (not usually,
though occasionally you hear
about a woman going all "Bobbet" on her 
man.)
 
Nope, Michael says men are scared of women's EMOTIONS.
 
See, it might sound weird, but emotions
are actually harder for guys to deal with
and to recover from for guys
than they are for women.
 
According to Dr. John Gottman at the
University of Washington (right
here in Seattle) women can both
enter and recover from extreme
emotional states a LOT faster
and easier than guys can.
 
If you think about it, it makes sense.
 
We've all seen a woman burst into tears
one moment only to be totally fine 5 minutes
later.
 
But when it comes to emotions, guys are
a lot more "fragile."
 
Gottman says it's because of evolution.

Guys were evolved to be single taskers.
 
To push everything out of their mind
except the one thing they're hunting.
 
And because of that we're slower to
get into an emotional state and MUCH
slower to get back out of it once we get
there.
 
I like to think of it like swimming.
 
Getting "emotional" for women is a lot like jumping
off a dock into a lake.
 
You get wet, sure. But the dock is right there and just a few
seconds later you're safe and dry. . . 
 
But for guys, "getting emotional" is like getting dropped
in the middle of the ocean . . .
 
Bobbing in the water.
 
Surrounded by sharks. 
 
With land nowhere in site.
 
What does this have to do with LYING?
 
Everything.
 
From a very young age, guys
learn that if we tell you the truth you
could FREAK OUT on us. . . 
 
FLOOD us them with scary emotions . . .
 
And push them out in the ocean where it'll
take them hours to recover.
 
Of course there's other reasons that
guys lie too . ..
 
And other mysteries of men that the "guys"
in your life simply never tell you about . . .

If you want to truly understand men, you should
drop whatever you're doing and go watch this amazing new
video Michael Fiore has just released . . .

It gives you "X Ray Vision" into the minds of men . . .

And tells you all about an astonishing (and affordable)
new program Michael's created to answer every
question you've ever had about men and the way they think . . .

A program that tells you . . .
 

• What he really thinks of you (and why men
  are so BAD at showing a woman that he loves her.)
   
• Why he looks at other women, what it MEANS when
  he looks at another woman and what really goes through
  his head when he sees a hot girl walking down the street . . .
   
• Why men cheat . . . and how to drain your man's desire
  to cheat on you just by saying a few simple words.
   
• The dirty truth about a man's sexual mind . . .why your
  man WANTS to be objectified and how to give him
  sexual thrills that will have him addicted to you.
   
  And MUCH more . . .
   
  All based off thousands of secret survey responses 
  from real men . . . 
   
  Watch the Video Here Now 

  I don't know how long Michael is going to leave this
  video up, but if you want to UNDERSTAND men
  you need to watch it right now while you can.

Your Friend,

Nicole


P.S. If you're like me (or thousands of other women) 
you'll find yourself nodding along with this video, shocked and 
thankful that a guy like Michael is finally telling you
the TRUTH . . .

You ever start dating a guy and immediately, you’re walking on eggshells?